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| Author: | SeventhHeaven [ Wed May 28, 2008 7:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Rhetorical question ??? |
Why cant people just understand that I can never say goodbye? That doesnt mean Im morbid, depressed, living in the past etc. Im a good mum, Im raising three more young children - so what exactly do people expect ??????? Thank you everyone for letting me vent. Im really thankful that when Im able I can come here for some comfort. I need comfort a lot & support too, Im sorry if I dont have much to give you all, except my heartfelt prayers. Love, hugs, prayers and blessings, Maria. xxxxxxxxx |
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| Author: | Lynda [ Thu May 29, 2008 8:06 am ] |
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Dear Maria, I do not understand either...but please do know that no one here expects you to say goodbye, ever. You are a wonderful Mother! Your not morbid, living in the past, nor whatever else people want to tag you as...Do these people only speak of their children when they are physically by their side? Our children didn't die! They are more alive now than ever...in heaven, their eternal home, and ours one day. If anything, we will see our children later, they continue to exist just as God has ALWAYS existed! You keep on being a Mommy to your precious angels, and that also means speaking about them and sharing them with others...just as they share their children with you. (((HUGS))) Hugs, Lynda |
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| Author: | Cindy [ Thu May 29, 2008 11:16 am ] |
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Oh Maria, I don't know why people treat us the way they do except maybe they just don't understand us. Yes you are a good Mum to "all" of your children and my friend that's what matters. No it doesn't mean any more than just that. I've learned that there are just some people that I can't share that part of my life with because it's too special to my heart and I don't want it to be hurt by those that don't understand. Does that make sense? Like Lynda said, our babies "all of them" are very much alive and well in Heaven and we will see them again some day. I realized that finally understanding that is when much healing came to my heart. I "needed" to know and believe that they are alive. My boys are ever bit as much a part of my life as they were while they were here if not even more so now. I'm sorry you've been hurt by the unknowing words of others. I'm convinced though that unless they loose...they will never fully understand. I know your sweet little Teressa's birthday/angelday is coming up soon as well as Peter's and those days bring so much added heartache. Please know I'm lifting you up in prayer and the Lord is going to continue to carry you and give you strength. Love and hugs, Cindy |
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| Author: | SeventhHeaven [ Thu May 29, 2008 4:54 pm ] |
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Dearest Lynda and Cindy, Thank you for listening, affirming and supporting me many many times. I thank you for your prayers and many other ways you have supported me. Love and blessings, Maria. xxxxxxxx |
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| Author: | halfpint22 [ Wed Jun 11, 2008 8:38 am ] |
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Most people don't understand that losing a child is the worse pain a person can ever go through. The one thing that I have been told on more than one occasion is to never let anyone tell me to get over it. You don't get over losing a child no matter what age and saying goodbye is just not any option. I just don't understand it either! |
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| Author: | felumar [ Sat Jul 31, 2010 2:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Rhetorical question ??? |
Just Know Just know that I didn't just "Go through something." Just know that I am not the same, I can't "Just get over it." Just know that my child was alive. Just know as any parent would, I did my best to save her. Just know I did fall short. Just know that you don't "know what I mean." Just know that you can't know "how it feels." Just know that I want to talk sometimes but can't. Just know that I have some pain you can't feel. Just know that God willing, you will never be able to feel how I feel. Just know that you don't know. Just know that I need you there anyway. by Joe Hoehman http://carolynne-martin.last-memories.com/index.php |
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