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| Author: | JANE_E [ Tue Oct 23, 2007 11:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I lost a dear friend today |
This morning I received an email from a friend at the college where I worked that a dear friend, Sherry Fittro, was in the hospital in critical condition. Sherry was a quadriplegic and had been in a wheel chair for 26 years. She had no fine motor movement at all, totally paralyzed from the waist down and only gross movement of her arms. She went on to graduate from college and founded the tutoring center at the college. She was a very good friend of mine. Late this afternoon, after we came in from working in the vineyard I had the following email from George Dennis, another friend at the college: From: Dennis, George Sent: Tue 10/23/2007 10:37 AM To: LCC - All; student.all Subject: Sherri Fittro Faculty, Staff, Students: I was just informed that Sherri Fittro has lost her struggle for life. She probably had a grand mal seizure Sunday afternoon and was without oxygen for a long period of time before first responders provided oxygen. Yesterday she was kept on life support to see just how severely oxygen deprivation had affected her, but she continued to experience seizures though out much of the day. Evidently the damage was significant as doctors met with family this morning and they opted to take Sherri off life support. The Sherri Fittro that I knew was strong, proud and fiercely independent and would never have wanted to be in a passive state. Members of the Tutoring Center and the College Preparation department will deeply miss Sherri and the important work she performed as tutor coordinator. As soon as the family makes arrangements for a service, I will get the word out to the campus community. George Dennis This is so sad. Sherry had so much life in her. She was fun and funny, never lost her sense of humor and was a joy to be around. I am so saddened by the loss. It makes me wonder where it will all stop. jane |
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| Author: | Drea [ Tue Oct 23, 2007 11:35 pm ] |
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Jane I am very sorry to hear about you dear friend! I'll be praying you have strength to get through this. Take care of yourself. (((hugs))) |
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| Author: | Cindy [ Wed Oct 24, 2007 12:10 am ] |
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Jane, I'm so sorry. I'll keep you and her family and friends in my prayers. I know the decision to take her off of life support was so hard. We had to make that decision with B.J. but we knew in our hearts it was the right thing to do. But knowing that didn't keep it from being hard to do. I'm just so sorry. Love and prayers, Cindy |
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| Author: | JANE_E [ Wed Oct 24, 2007 2:09 am ] |
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Cindy, Thank you, I can only imagine how horrible it was to make the decision to take your beloved BJ off of life support.......... I've thought about that so many times because we faced that with Franks daughter, Danni. It wasn't really our decision, it was her husband's decision........but I was so frantic to find out why the doctor's didn't believe she'd wake up from the coma........ I talked to them and begged them, before that decision was made, was there another test they could do. They told me yes, there was one more but they were sure she was brain dead. They ran it on Wednesday, June 14 and the next morning the entire team of doctors met with us and gave us the results. They said there was no brain activity, and no reflexes and they were sure she would never be any better than she was. They said she could not breathe on her own and would be on a breathing machine as long as she lived. That was so horrible........... I could not believe it had happened to our Danni........ She was so beautiful and so sweet and so kind. Her marriage was not happy at all but she loved him and strived to make him happy when nothing could........... Her husband made the decision to disconnect the machinery at 9 PM on Thursday night. She started struggling to breathe right away and passed at midnight. That was a nightmare. I was in absolute shock..........and it only got worse from that point on. Since she had committed suicide, the state coroner took possession of her body. We didn't leave the hospital until almost five am and had to drive 160 miles home. Having to make that decision was more than I could do....... I was glad it wasn't my decision........... even though I knew it was the right one, I still don't think I could have done it. I trusted the doctors and believed they had run every test to confirm that she was already gone with God............. but still........her body was warm and as far as I could tell, still alive. Part of me wanted to hang onto her even if she would sleep forever.........but I believed that her husband made the right decision. It just made me feel so heartbroken to have to see them do it. I'm so sorry you had to make that decision.......it's the most difficult decision a parent can make......... it was horrible. I watched them disconnect her and sat quietly while they did it and inside I was screaming no, no..........leave her on it, if only for a few more days........... but I didn't say a word. Little did I know that in another four months we'd be back in the hospital with Scott, watching him pass into God's hands also. And then, four months after Scott, my dear nephew Kenny passed also. It was such a painful year. I'm so sorry when I think of you having to make that decision for your BJ.......... oh Cindy. You don't recover from something like that for a long, long time. I'm so sorry. I Love you Cindy, you're always there for everyone else and I know the pain you carry in your own heart. Love, hugs, Prayers, jane |
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| Author: | Tonya [ Wed Oct 24, 2007 8:41 am ] |
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Jane... I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I'm sure that she touched many lives throughout her lifetime. I can't imagine just how difficult it must have been to make to decision to take her off of life support. I just can't imagine. I am keeping you and Sherry's friend and family in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and many hugs, ~Tonya~ |
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| Author: | Lynda [ Wed Oct 24, 2007 9:21 am ] |
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Dear Jane, This is so sad. Another great loss, another reason to cry, another sweet Angel with our babies. I am so sorry Jane (((HUGS))). I will keep the Fittro family and friend sin my prayers. I know the next few days will be difficult, but know we are here for you to share your dear friend and any memories with us. I love you! Hugs, Lynda |
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| Author: | Barbara [ Wed Oct 24, 2007 9:25 am ] |
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Jane, I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.I will be keeping you and her family in my thoughts and prayers.God Bless You. Sending many,many HUGS, Barbara |
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