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Author:  Cece [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 5:46 pm ]
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Awesome. We should include phone numbers.
Author:  JANE_E [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 7:29 pm ]
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GOD BLESS YOU! I was thinking about this the other day.........


Thank you,
jane

JANE, I removed your information and will keep in a file with everyone that emails me and wants added to the list. I will send this information BY REQUEST through me or Lynda only.

i removed it since this is not a private forum and I do not want STRANGERS knocking on your door. PROTECTING YOU my dear friend.
Author:  momma to3 boys [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 8:09 pm ]
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TAMMY ILL EMAIL MINE
Author:  Barbara [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 8:59 pm ]
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Tammy I just emailed you my info.
Hugs,
Barbara
Author:  JANE_E [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 10:49 pm ]
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Thank You Tammy,

I didn't even think of that, I got so excited about the idea of t he card list.

Bless you for covering my back.
love,
je
Author:  Tonya [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 11:06 pm ]
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What an awesome idea!! I sent you a message Tammy!

I love you!
~Tonya~
Author:  Drea [ Sat Oct 27, 2007 12:03 am ]
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Thank you for this wonderful idea Tammy. I can't wait to mail them out!
Author:  Cindy [ Sat Oct 27, 2007 12:29 am ]
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Tammy, I think this is such a nice thing to do but I just can't do it. You probably noticed I didn't be a part of the secret pals...I just couldn't. It's not that I didn't want to and it's not that I don't want to do this, I just can't and I feel such a need to explain.
Without me having to say it this time of the year is terrible for me. It takes all I have in me to just get through Thanksgiving, B.J.'s death date on Dec.1st, Christmas and then the twins birthday in Jan. The thought of having to go out and buy a gift and get it sent off is too much for me. I do good to get for my kids. :cry: And to make myself do cards is the same. There is no Merry in Christmas and no Happy in the New Year for me. I tell people to have a blessed holiday but that's as for as I can go. Please understand "you and the others" I'm not trying to not be a part of "us" I just can't do this Tammy. :cry:
I'm like everyone else here and have my weakness' too.
Love, Cindy
Author:  SeventhHeaven [ Sat Oct 27, 2007 4:21 am ]
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Oh Precious Cindy,

You never have to explain. Im sorry its so hard, Im so sorry.
Please know I will be praying extra hard for you in the coming months.
Its funny, I havent sent cards in - well this will be my fourth year. The only reason I got some out the year before is because we had moved and I felt I would be remiss in not keeping in touch being interstate. It was hard.

Yes Cindy, you do real good to get for your kids and thats all you need to do and know.
From where Im standing I dont see any weaknesses. Only strength.
I tell my girls, what others or the secular world sees as weakness, The Lord sees and wants us to know and embrace as gifts and strengths.

I had a very good analogy given to me on a retreat many years ago.
Our lives are like a tapestry.The world would like us to see the underside, all the knots and untidy threads, but The Lord wants us to see the right side, the beautiful picture He's helping us to create.

I see your beautiful picture Cindy.

Love and blessings, Maria. xxxxxxx
Author:  Barbara [ Sat Oct 27, 2007 11:24 am ]
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Oh Cindy ,you don't have to explain your self.I'm so sorry its so hard for you.
You will always be in my thoughts and prayers dear friend.We all love you!!!
Many,many HUGS,
Barbara
Author:  Jo Ann [ Sun Oct 28, 2007 1:57 pm ]
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Treasured Tammy and Sweet Lynda,

Thank you for forming the Christmas card list. it is a kind and thoughtful idea.

I am in the same mind frame as Cindy. i just can not do it. I would like to hybernate from now through New years. All the holidays are overwhelming for me - Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. Why new Years? Because to me it signals another year that my Krystal will not be alive and raising her sons. Krystal's twin sons birthday is just before days before Krystal's death date, December 10. All of this is too much to bear. i am making slow progress. Until last year i could not even buy my own family Christmas gifts. I explained it to each of them and just gave them money. Last Christmas was Huge because I bought my family Christmas gifts. Was difficult as hell, but somehow I did it, through the tears and pain.

For the same types of reasons I did not participate in the Secret Pal. I thought it was a wonderful idea, but i could not muster up the energy to have one more thing to do. Survival and trying to take baby steps is all i can handle now.

I love you all,
Author:  JANE_E [ Sun Oct 28, 2007 10:48 pm ]
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No Cindy, you don't have to say a word. We all understand....... nothing will ever be really celebrated again. Part of me feels the same way, especially about going outside my private little closed up life..........but I force myself to do a few things that are important to my family. It takes all I've got to do it, but I try.

I feel as if I could skip Christmas forever, but I have nine grandchildren that would be broken hearted if I skipped it totally. I know Scott would not want his children to suffer more than they already have and I believe he will be here with us. I plan to take lots of pictures to see if I can find an orb in any of the pictures.

I did minimal things last year, but we did try to pull it together for the kids. With losing Scott in October and then Thanksgiving in November, Christmas, Scott's daughter's birthday on the 28th of December and then Scott's on the 29th. It's almost impossible to get through all the holidays without constant melt downs. Then Scott's middle son's birthday is January 6th.

It takes a lot of energy to survive all those constant reminders. I retreat from everything I can, but some things I won't allow myself to skip......... anything that has to do with the grandkids. They already have enough grief in their lives.

Love,
jane
Author:  Cindy [ Sun Oct 28, 2007 11:45 pm ]
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Thank you ladies for understanding. I do what I need to do for my kids but that's about all I can do. Like I said it's already started being harder again and I don't know why but for some reason I thought this year would be easier. There are things that have gotten better but this just hasn't. I think I must have set myself up for a fall thinking it would since life in general has been a little easier. I don't know.
Love you all, Cindy
Author:  Tonya [ Mon Oct 29, 2007 8:33 am ]
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Cindy.....

Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers...always!!!! We completely understand - there is never a need for explanations.

If you ever need anything, remember, I'm only a phone call away.

I love you, my dear friend -
~Tonya~
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