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 Post subject: learning to live without my mother
PostPosted: Sun Aug 26, 2007 6:49 pm 
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I lost my mother 5 months ago to a long battle against colo-rectal cancer. She was everything to me. We held a bond together that I will cherish my entire life. But this makes it all that much harder to bear. I miss her more with each passing day. I took her in to live with me and my family the last 2 years of her life. I find myself walking around daily paralized with grief, I can't seem to fully come to terms with the fact she is forever gone. The lose of my mother has changed me forever, I do not react to anything the same as I once did, my emotions are so jumbled up. People say it gets easier, I just can't believe that when for me each day becomes harder as the shock wears and reality hits with a painful blow.[/url]


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I lost my mom at age 49 to LEUKEMIA, she never knew she had it, she had signs of fatigue and migraines (which everyone has) and then she passed out at home and was rushed to the hospital where she died 3 years later. We are 7 children 5 girls and 2 boys without our mom. No one knows how hard its been the past 10 years since she died, it doesnt get easier with time, you only try to make it as time goes by, our hearts are still heavy and we miss her especially around the holdiays. when we go to the cemetary we cry and sob as if it was just yesterday. We so long to hear her voice again, her hgs her smile. She was such a saint, she lvoed evryone and everyone loved her. She loved children everyone called her their second mom...she never got tired and loved having family around...she was too good for Earth and God took her home....we miss her more than words can ever say, more than we can express the heaviness of our hearts and more than the tears that flow on our pillows at ngiht....

I am hear for you if you want to talk...I know this is new to you since you just lost her...alone we are lonely together we can give each other support and comfort to carry on and know they are in a much better place...! - God bless you!

P.S.For those of you who have their mom. please dont let little thngs get in your way, no one loves you more than the person who bore and raised you! She nurtured you and took care of you and a mothers job is never over not even when your old enough and on your own, her worries are for a lifetime for her children....I thank God that we all got along with my mother and we always loved and respected her...we used to say "MOM knows best"! and how true that is....nothing has been the same since she left we were all a big happy family and everyone took her passing hard..especially our younger brother he has never been the same....we wonder if he ever will. The rest of us moved on we have no choice, but it doesnt mean our hearts dont ache....

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 Post subject: Learning to live without Mother
PostPosted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 6:33 pm 
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I lost my precious Mother on April 15, 2007. She died very suddenly while I had gone to run an errand. My Mother was 94 years old, but she was very active and healthy. She had some mild dementia, but she was still able to do a lot of things. She had lived with me since 1984 when my Daddy passed away. She developed the dementia in about 2000. I was always a big "Momma's Baby", and she had always been so important to me. People look at me strange when I tell them her age, and they think that should make the loss easier. There are things I am thankful for, that she didn't suffer, was still at home, knew everyone and was very happy. But that does NOT make it any easier. My everyday life revolved around her needs, and everything we did we took her into consideration first. Could she go with us? Who would stay with her? Just all the questions you would consider for your child.
I am totally lost without her. I just seem to have lost the joy of living. I go on every day, and have quit calling my kids and sister and crying, because they think I should be getting okay by now. They don't understand that she was part of our house, and all of her things are still there. Her dishes are in my cabinet, her pictures are on the wall throughout the house, her chairs with the extra cushions are still there and I can't bear to take out the cushions even. They have become "my" chairs now. I go through the motions every day with such a heavy heart. I am helping to raise two grandchildren and I have three grown children. I don't want them to feel they have lost their grandmother and their Mother, but I just hurt so bad. I cry every day, my chest feels so heavy with lonliness. She loved me so much and I loved having her with me. Every day I miss her more. She was a sweet, calm person, everyone loved her. Especially children. I never saw a child that didn't fall in love with Mother.
Sometimes while I'm working or just walking through a store, it suddenly just feels like someone has punched me in the stomach and I just nearly lose my breath. The realization that she is really gone and I will never see her again on this earth. [/b]


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 1:28 pm 
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Hello MArgaret and Melissa!!! Welcome Im new here too pretty much. One thing I learned for sure...mothers cant be far away from their children. I am sure they are all protecting us...they see our tears, our happiness, our fears, and the love we have and always will have for them!

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 Post subject: Re: learning to live without my mother
PostPosted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 6:47 pm 
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Jane wrote:
I lost my mother 5 months ago to a long battle against colo-rectal cancer. She was everything to me. We held a bond together that I will cherish my entire life. But this makes it all that much harder to bear. I miss her more with each passing day. I took her in to live with me and my family the last 2 years of her life. I find myself walking around daily paralized with grief, I can't seem to fully come to terms with the fact she is forever gone. The lose of my mother has changed me forever, I do not react to anything the same as I once did, my emotions are so jumbled up. People say it gets easier, I just can't believe that when for me each day becomes harder as the shock wears and reality hits with a painful blow.[/url]

My mother passed away earlier this year as well. The way you have described your feelings sounds exactly like what I am going through. I'm sorry for your loss.

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