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Author:  BigAlsgirl [ Wed Mar 10, 2010 3:22 pm ]
Post subject:  My Boo Boo

On Jan 12,2010 my world ended!! My best friend and lover was murdered in a small town in Virginia. He was visiting some friends when these 4 young punks came in the house yelling about some dumb stuff. He asked them to be quiet cause there was a baby in the room sleeping. They got loud again so he asked them to take it outside. One of the guys pulled a pistol and hit him then they ALL kicked beat and stomped him to death!! He was 54 yrs old and the guys were 20,24, and 26. He was a good man and had so many people who loved and cared about him. His mother,four brothers,sister,two daughters and two grandsons are without him because of something so stupid. He was the best friend I ever had and now Im lost without him. Both of my parents died in 2006 and my brother died in 2007. Big Al was my heart and now he is gone as well. Rest in Peace my love see you in Heaven!!!

Author:  gelicab [ Mon May 17, 2010 10:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My Boo Boo

As much as I hate to read these posts because well I cant do anything for the people who write them, I know that maybe sharing a few words and letting you know your not alone might help in some very small way.

Hi, my name is Angelica. I too lost a wonderful person to an ignorant person's actions. It was more than 5 years ago my baby neice was only 11 months old when her stepdad murdered her. I'll never know why or how or if I could have changed things, I live with regret and a sadness that i so deep.

I read your post after creating a website for my friend who died in an accident just 2 days ago, so again I feel the grief, and very deep sadness. I wonder how your doing now. They say you should heal with time, but I have never quit healed. Only learned to cope the best way I can for myself, my sister and the rest of the family.

Today I pray that you find some peace and comfort. I cant imagine the pain of loosing my spouse, after loosing my friend I made him promise he would never leave me, but I know deep down that he cant make that promise. I now fear everyone, in any situation, including those that would put my loved ones in danger like car crashes, murder etc.

I became a victim advocate to help people get through their grief. I cant say as I've made a great contribution to this world, but I can say that I've met some wonderfully strong, and hard working people. Murder is a unique crime in that it not only takes a person's life but destroys the lives of the people who knew that person because of fear, anger, and sadness.

I pray that today you find peace and maybe some justice. I hope that these guys were punished, though honestly there will never be enough punishment for what they have done.

If you ever need to talk Ill leave my email address. I hate that you have to be one of the people that experience things like this, I wish I was the only surviving victim in the world and no one would ever go thru this type of hurt again. There would sure be such an incredible world if even the title "victim advocate" never existed.

Hugs,

Mrs Angelica Doser
Mustang, OK

adoser001@hotmail.com

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