Reign On Me - New Movie

Jo Ann · **Posted:** Wed Oct 17, 2007 12:52 am

Don and I just watched the new Adam Sandler movie that is out on DVD and video. The name is Reign On Me. It is rated R, probally because it does have the f word in it several times. This movie is about a man who has lsot his wife and 3 young daughters in an airplane crash about 6 years ago. He is in so much pain that he blocks out his family and his story and loses himself in deep denial and grief. His old college room mate runs into him on the street and tries to reach out to him. It is a good portrayal of why we need to tell our story over and over and overm, as long as it takes and as many times as it takes. It also shows that grief has no time frame or rules, but each person has to find her way, hopefully with the help of friends and caring people. I am glad Hollywood is showing a glimpse of how life changing a traumatic loss is, and hopefully this movie will be a step to educating the public about grief.
Love,

JANE_E · **Posted:** Wed Oct 17, 2007 1:05 am

I saw the previews and thought it looked like a good movie.But I don't know if I'm in a place to see a movie about death since my life seems to revolve around loss now.......... I sometimes think I will not survive this ordeal.

I sit here night after night sobbing on my keyboard............ when will the pain go away? If it's true that it never goes away, then why go on living?

I'm in such bad shape......... I feel it building in me more every day as we get closer & closer to Saturday when it will be one year. One year since I heard my son's voice, felt his skin warm to my touch and told him that I love him.

Sometimes I pray for an angel to sneak to my bed in the middle of the night and take my hand and take me home............... I just don't think I'll ever have another happy day

Tonya · **Posted:** Wed Oct 17, 2007 8:39 am

Jo Ann...
I, too, saw the previews for that movie. It is definitely one that I want to see. I just love Adam Sandler! It's good that Hollywood is actually starting to do movies that revolve around real life situations. It's long overdue.

Jane...
I feel your pain, and am praying for you. I wish, with all of my heart, that we could understand why we have to endure this pain and emptiness. I wish that I could turn back time and make everything okay....in all of our lives. If I could, I would do it in a heartbeat. I hate seeing people that I love so sad.

Just know that you are forever in my heart, thoughts and prayers my dear friend. One day, all of our questions will be answered. And, oh, what a wonderful day that will be. Until then, I'm glad that I have all of you to go on this heartbreaking journey with me. Please know that I'm always here for you.

I love you.....

Jo Ann · **Posted:** Wed Oct 17, 2007 8:45 am

Oh Jane,
I understand completely why you would not want to see this movie. I am not recommending that any of us see it because that is a personal decision. You KNOW in your gut if you can see it . I do not think it would be a wise thing for you to see it now.

I am just glad that a movie is finally being made that shows how disorienting traumatic loss is and the movie stresses the need to reach out and to tell your story and that there is no time line or limit on grief. Each person needs to find her own way, bit by bit. To me this is a baby step to educating the public. Most movies have maybe a brief one crying scene after death and the next scene shows all resolved and everyone going about life with "closure" (yuck, I do not like that word). That is not at all how grief works.

Sweetie, be gentle with yourself because the first anniversary date is overwhelming. It will hurt like hell, but you will make it through it. Just remember all you really have to do is breath. Do whatever, or do absolutely nothing but sob, that gets you through the first anniversary. just as long as you do not hurt yourself or anyone else, do what your gut tells you to do.

I am sending you lots of love and hugs.

Reign On Me - New Movie

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